I used to be like a chameleon, changing my appearance to blend in with everyone else.
I even modified my behaviour by agreeing with other people's opinions so as to avoid confrontation or controversy.
In the words of Katy Perry:-
" I stood for nothing so I fell for everything."
I didn't have strong opinions & I didn't know who or what I wanted to be so as most teenagers started to develop a strong sense of identity I began to develop a deep lack of confidence. I was desperate to be accepted so I tried being grungy but wasn't quite edgy enough, I also tried being trendy but wasn't quite cool enough. Somehow I felt like I didn't belong in my own body so I ended up becoming completely obsessed by my appearance which led to Body Dysmorphic Disorder & Social Anxiety.
It wasn't until I started to work on myself that I realised how my negative self image had impacted on me. Having been ridiculed all my life for my quiet voice I thought there was no point voicing an opinion because no one would hear me. I had such little self respect that I felt my opinions didn't matter anyway.
After years of self-development & training I now know my opinion does count & I've found my voice & my vehicle. I've discovered that I love variety & that's part of who I am. I get bored if I stick to one thing for too long so I like to have a few projects on the go at once. I take my role as a Mum very seriously & I love working with children but I'm also passionate about Life Coaching & helping others. I've now found the perfect balance between the practical & the nurturing parts of my personality so it's the ideal mix for me.
Having discovered that it's my purpose to "fulfill my potential & to help others to fulfill theirs" i've found I'm able to make decisions much easier. Since my purpose is so broad it encapsulates all my values & allows me to be free to be myself as long as I'm fulfilling my potential. Living in this authentic way has given me so much confidence & self belief. At last I know what I stand for & who I am which is deeply empowering & uplifting. I hope I can help you to discover your sense of self to help you live authentically too.